Thursday, June 13, 2013

My Husband's Advice to Just Write

It's easy to feel a lot of pressure as a blogger. Pressure to always be on the top of my game, pressure to always have gorgeous photographs of a gorgeous life to present to the world, as if my entire blog is a giant neon sign that says "Hey, look, I've got my life together!"

When I let this pressure get to me it results in me not blogging at all, because I feel as though I wouldn't be putting out the quality I think readers deserve. As I was discussing this with my husband the other day, he looked at me and said:

"Daryl, I don't think it matters what you're writing about. I think the important thing is that you're just writing."

I sort of stared at him for second, wondering where this wisdom and perfectly worded piece of advice could have possibly come from - but despite my moment of disbelief at my husband's eloquence I can honestly say I don't think truer words have ever been spoken.

I love to write: fiction, non-fiction, poems, articles, essays, you name it. I always excelled in writing courses in school and truly, my love of writing and creativity is the reason I started this blog in the first place.

How easy it was to forget that.

So today I'm just going to write. I'm not quite even sure what about yet, but I'm going to see what my mind and fingers can create in an hour or two of just doing what I love. I encourage you to do the same - write, or photograph, or paint or draw or create, about anything or everything or nothing at all, and don't do it because you feel the need to post to your blog a certain number of times per week. Do it because it makes your heart feel full and happy.

I love my husband and his moments of total genius.


Maggie B. said...

I often feel the same way about my blog, and then there's that awkward part of me that feels like I should apologize for having a life that isn't, in fact, perfect in any way. Weird. But, like you, I do love to write and I try to do it often. My work schedule is crazy and I have rehearsals and meetings and such at night, but I'm trying! =)

If I'm not writing, I'll knit, sew or play my horn. One outlet or another...

Bethany said...

Steven is absolutely right. You should never make your blog your obligation to please others. It's your journal you are showing to the world. Write what ever you want. When I read some blogs that try very hard to please their readers and make their lives look perfect, I tend to become bored with them and don't want to read anymore. Main reason is because I think they are lying about everything on their blog. I even start to think their pictures are lies, posed to make the readers think their life is together. As a blogger, sewer, mom, wife, I know my life isn't perfect and I don't ever want my readers to think it is. It's very important to be honest with your readers - the same as any other type of author. Discuss your reality, money issues, dreams, fears, crazy days, struggles. Readers want to know you are a real woman just like them.

Errissa said...

Yeah, just write from your heart, not to please other people--it's YOUR blog. People will want to read something with your passion behind it. So don't worry about it being up-to-par all the time. If you're too exciting then we'll either think you're crazy, or get insanely jealous! :P Love youuu!! <3


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